The Institute for Relational Harmony Studies
THE CSi CERTIFICATE IN
SEXOLOGICAL intimacy coaching
ENROLMENT PAGE
LIVE ONLINE SEX & INTIMACY PROFESSIONAL TRAINING WITH THE WHEEL OF CONSENT, RIGHT USE OF POWER, BODY POEM & CLEAN LANGUAGE THAT ETHICALLY EQUIP PRACTITIONERS WORKING WITH the most tender and exuberant aspects of being human facilitating INTIMATE sensual and erotic EXPRESSION & holding response flexibility in ALTERED STATES
COURSE LEADERS
Katie Sarra & Dr Phoebe Garland
enrolling Now for
April 2025 - january 2026
www.relationalharmony.institute
Welcome to the professional training in Sexological Intimacy Coaching
ENROLMENT
AFTER YOU HAVE RECEIVED A Formal offer of Place
After we have met and welcomed you to the training and you have accepted your place, please follow the steps needed to complete your enrollment.
- Please pay your Enrollment fee to secure your place within one week of receiving your offer. We have 20 places and are interviewing each Thursday.
- Please read the Terms & Conditions, Course Container Agreements & Code of Ethics - Link below.
- Please let us know at home@relationalharmony.institute if you wish to use a different email address to access the Training curriculum.
- Please also message Katie on WhatsApp at +44 7540571745 with the number you'd like to use to join the community communications threads. You will then be invited into the community thread in the next few weeks as our 2025 cohort gathers, where you can begin to meet each other.
Feel free to contact us if you have any questions before the training. Using the link below, you can book a quick chat with Katie.
You will receive our recommended reading and practices to support your preparation.
With Warmth and Kindness
Katie and Phoebe
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A maximum of 20 places are available for your supported learning experience. This CSI training offers geographical freedom and client privacy while practising online. It enables you to work with clients from anywhere worldwide and start generating income from your practice within your first year.
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Course fees for the 9-month Certification in Sexological Intimacy training - £4,300.
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remaining course fees & payment plans
The following is for the remainder of of the Course fees after you have paid your Enrolment fee
Remaining fees - after enrolmenrt fee
payment options
To be completed before the start of the training or july 2025 latest. this will vary depending on whiCh payment option you choose and when you start. the enrolment fee must be paid to secure your place before payment plans begin.
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monthly payments
not available after january 2024
£1,133
3 payments
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There are two bursary places available each year with A 30% discount
with payment plan options by individual arrangement if you do not have savings or are unable to secure a loan. the £900 enrolment fee is required to secure your place.
practitioner listing
If you wish to be represented on our Practitioners in Training Practitioner page to be visible to people looking to be volunteers for the Research Explorations and later when you are in the Supervised Practicum phase, reduced rate sessions, Please email us a photo of you, a short welcome description of you and how to contact you. e.g. email, phone, website etc
The Institute for relational harmony studies
training pathways
FIRST YEAR
online live webinars, on-line Research explorations & 1-1 coaching
SECOND YEAR
online live webinars, in-person Research explorations & 1-1 coaching
THIRD YEAR
online live webinars, Research explorations & 1-1 & group supervision training
FOURTH YEAR
online live webinars, Research explorations & 1-1 & group supervision training
1st year: CSI Practitioner training - 6 months experiential community learning and practice followed by three months of supervised client sessions and certification as a Sexological Intimacy Coach
2nd year: CSB Practitioner training - 6 months of experiential community learning, including a two-week in-person embodiment intensive followed by three months of supervised client sessions and certification as a Sexological Bodywork Practitioner
3rd year: CSSE training - 12 months of experiential coaching and supervision skills providing supervision to students along with an opportunity to revisit the 1st and 2nd-year curriculum and to develop your own educational material to present in our postgraduate program
4th year: Certificate in Supervision - 12 months of deeper experiential supervision training with a certificate to provide supervision to bodyworkers & practitioners working in the field of Sexuality
The Relational Harmony Institute is the only school led by teachers trained and qualified as Wheel of Consent™ and the Right Use of Power™ facilitators. This unique approach, backed by our research, provides a cost-effective path to becoming an ethical practitioner, including training in the Wheel of Consent and Right Use of Power to align with current ethical practice.
your journey in The Sexological Intimacy Coaching Training program first year
wave one - part 1
Three-day live online Relational Embodiment Practice
11th, 12th & 13th April 2025
4.00 - 8.30 pm gmt
Erotic and Emotional Fluency practices
- Phenomenological Active Listening
- Symbolic representation & unique niche of attention in co-creating reality
- Radical Acceptance practices using Clean Language & Body Poem
- Body image & Identity
- Genital Story
- Anal acceptance
wave one - part 2
Three-day live online Relational Embodiment Practice
25th, 26th & 27th April 2025
4.00 - 8.30 pm gmt
Weaving The Wheel of Consent with The Right Use of Power
- Opening Receptivity through the direct routes to pleasure and presence
- Co-creating attuned consensual relationship agreements
- Somatic recognition practices with Boundaries and limits
- The two ways of giving and receiving;- Practising Take/Allow & Serve/Accept quadrants of the WOC
- Trusting Spontaneity with intentions, impacts and repair.
By starting your training this April 2025, you will gain access to this new paradigm of working with sexual expression and develop your unique creativity as a practitioner with in-depth experience coaching clients online in erotic embodiment practices.
The first six months are intensive Sexological Intimacy Coach training, followed by three months of supervised client sessions with paying clients.
You will gain in-depth experience facilitating the Wheel of Consent to empower clients with voice and choice to request action for change and with Body Poem to facilitate radical acceptance—and knowing the difference with which to choose.
The syllabus integrates a combined 70 years of clinical practice and research with ten years of facilitating this training with tried and tested choreography and ingredients. The first six months involve maintaining curiosity in the unknown as you explore each micro-skill that comes together towards the end of the first six months when you apply these to structuring sessions. These include:-
wave two - five months
live webinars, research explorations & study
sexological intimacy Embodiment Practices, including 1-1, peer & group Supervision
may - july
august - integration
September - October 2025
The webinars are held twice a month on the second and fourth Wednesday evenings, including live teaching. The curriculum includes:
- Reading and watching the course study pieces, slide shows and videos
- Complete the Research Explorations with each other as peers and with client volunteers - two per week.
- Write a reflection piece for each session you receive and facilitate posting these on our private forum. Respond to your peer’s reflection pieces when you are inspired to support each other (Recommended two each time)
- Attend a 1-1 Monthly Supervision call with your coach.
- Attend the twice-monthly community webinars.
Webinar 1 - Wednesday, 14th May
Webinar 2 - Wednesday 28th May
Webinar 3 - Wednesday 11th June
Webinar 4 - Wednesday 25th June
Webinar 5- Wednesday 9th July
Webinar 6- Wednesday 23rd July
August - integration
Webinar 7 - Wednesday 10th September
Webinar 8 - Wednesday 24th September
Webinar 9 - Wednesday 8th October
Webinar 10 - Wednesday 22nd October
supervised Practicum Webinars
Webinar 10 - Wednesday 12th November
Webinar 11 - Wednesday 10th December
Webinar 12 - Wednesday 14th January
wave three - three months
supervised practicum
20 Supervised sessions
october/november - December/january
This is where the entire syllabus comes alive in full sessions, and your learning accelerates. Depending on the frequency of sessions you offer paying clients, you can earn certification at any point during the three months allocated for supervised practice.
Throughout the certification process, you will receive monthly Q&A webinars (exclusive to your cohort) alongside the monthly larger community postgraduate webinars. A 1-1 coaching call is held after every five client sessions, and a minimum of 20 sessions is required for certification. This ensures you have the guidance you need to succeed. We'd like you to submit one video session every five sessions.
Coaching fees during this practicum phase are set at a reduced fee of £60 per coaching call with one of our listed Relational Harmony Institute Approved Coaches, which you can view on our website. These four sessions are designed to support you in beginning this journey with Professional Supervision and discovering what aspects of supervision meet your needs. They will inform you of your choice after certification during this exploratory phase.
You are also required to receive three sessions as a client from one of our Relational Harmony Institute-approved CSI/CSB/practitioners. Many of these practitioners offer reduced costs for students in this training and are listed on the RHI Website.
We encourage you to cover these fees from your client fees and charge clients a reduced fee while you are in the certification process.
You start working with paying clients in October, so completing the 20 Supervised practicum Learning Credits by December is possible.
postgraduate - november onwards
community cpd webinars, Practice & peer supervision, connections & networking
first thursday of each month
5.00 - 8.30 pm gmt
As a Certified CSI & CSB practitioner or a student certifying in the three-month supervised practicum phase, you can participate in the Postgraduate CPD monthly webinars. These facilitate continuing to be part of your supportive cohort’s community beyond the training dates.
They provide a consistent opportunity for continued community learning and growth, support the navigation of learning edges and ethics with kindness, and celebrate your achievements. They include somatic practices, Q&A, Peer Supervision and a monthly webinar presentation.
You will be warmly invited to join our thriving multi-year community, where everyone's unique perspectives and experiences are valued. We meet on the first Thursday of every month from 5 to 8.30 pm UK time, and we look forward to your participation.
As a CSI or CSB student practitioner, you can apply for membership in ASIS, The Association for Somatic Integrative Sexologists and the ACSB, The Association for Certified Sexological Bodyworkers.
Upon completing this CSI training, you will be eligible to enrol in the Certificate inSexological Bodywork (CSB) training starting in April 2026. This opportunity for further training involving your physically attuned touch opens new somatic realms and expands your response flexibility and ethics. We look forward to seeing you become part of our pioneering sexuality profession with leading-edge ethics.
Wednesday Webinar structure
Somatic embodiment practice
Practising and learning the micro-skills of engaging with the body and the environment, resourcing, attuning with each other, and priming our focus of attention with the subject area we are exploring are core practitioner skills. Each week, you will be guided by our leading team of sex educators and faculty to support us all in arriving, opening our receptivity, and attuning to the focus of the webinar—with Arantxa Joseph as our lead choreographer.
group supervision & reflective practice
In this part of the webinar, you will be facilitated in reflective practice to share your learning edges and questions, harvesting your updates to versions of yourselves and what you are learning about yourself from the two weeks of research explorations you have been engaging in with each other and client volunteers. This is where it is important to be abreast with each wave so you are together as a community learning together.
guided teaching
Phoebe and Katie lead this session alongside members of the sex educator team and faculty. There will be guided practice to support your preparation for the next two weeks of research explorations. We will give our focus of attention to one of these. Some weeks we will be visited by other leading educators in this field offering a variety of different teaching styles, approaches and perspectives to enhance our learning environment.
pod meeting & peer supervision
You will each be in a pod of approximately 4 peers supported by a memeber of the sex educator team. This is your support group during the training where you can bring what you are tender and exubehant with as you move through these research explorations. Part the way through the training, you will be taught the peer supervision structure and begin to develop your skills as a mentor with your peers - These skills and practice will be valuable for when you are later practising professionally as a postgraduate
“The Sexological Bodywork PRACTITIONER Training of
The Institute for Relational Harmony Studies
is the most comprehensive sexuality training I have found.
The syllabus is rich and covers an incredible breadth of subjects - neuroscience, embodied boundaries and consent, emotional command systems, somatic coaching techniques, rupture and repair processes, session structure, hygiene protocol, and of course, all the anatomy and physiology Sexological Bodywork tools.
This training teaches the core competencies of how to meet another Human in their wholeness - with radical acceptance of all of their parts, including their erotic and sexual expression. It encourages you as a practitioner to trust your spontaneity, creativity, and intuition while equipping you with everything you need to build an ethical, trauma-informed practice.
Katie’s passion, skill, embodied experience, and wisdom are the essence of this training which make It come alive with joy, love, care & laughter.” - Luzi Pods
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Course Container Agreements
We aim to create an inclusive and supportive learning environment, valuing and understanding each participant's unique learning styles and needs. We acknowledge the many different walks of life we have all come from, how our past experiences influence our relationships and participation in groups, and that we all have unique learning styles and needs. Your participation in the community dynamics during the training influences your curiosity and confidence while learning and developing your fluency as a practitioner. The certification process is emergent and always in process; it's influenced by your emotional fluency and feeling resourced with awareness of learning edges and blindspots and a well-defined post-graduate plan for your continuing professional development. Your dedication to these areas will help you to be confident in your practice as a Sexological Intimacy Coach and in fostering harmonious collaborations within our professional community. During this training, we invite you to give kind focus to the following: celebrate your unique gifts that contribute to and enrich community learning.
- Your kindness and ethical participation as a professional community member help our community be attuned to each other, and you will be supported if there is a need to repair any ruptures.
- Your humility with your learning edges.
- Please honour and respect these agreements throughout the training to the best of your ability.
The following course container agreements have been developed to support the group learning process. Please honour and respect these agreements throughout the training to the best of your ability.
- We ask that you agree not to identify individuals, their words, or their experiences, not to make recordings or take photos of people without their permission, and not to discuss these outside of the training context.
- We encourage you to share your experiences (e.g., I feel, I notice, I’m experiencing, etc.). This helps us receive each other compassionately rather than generalising and focusing on our learning.
- We acknowledge that some community members are under-represented and marginalised in our group and society. We wish to create a community where all voices can be heard, and all perspectives can be valued. This means that we would like to ask you to agree to actively cultivate an awareness of power dynamics and support all members in participating. This includes holding back from habitually taking space in group discussions, understanding how others are participating, and asking others what they might need to participate without making assumptions.
- Ethical practice is both a personal and a communal responsibility. We agree not to be bystanders and to speak up whenever we become aware of something that does not feel ethical in our community. We agree to support those who have the courage to speak up, to be willing to engage in any learning or repair that might be required of us and to help each other with kindness as we grow in response to any difficulties that arise. Whatever our role in a community dynamic, we agree to participate with the whole community through the collective process of restoring harmony.
- During this practitioner training, you will be inhabiting multiple roles with each other, such as classmate, client, practitioner, and witness roles. You will be expected to work outside of attraction and not engage in erotic sexual relationships with each other.
- As practitioners in training in multiple roles with each other, you will be expected to work outside of aversion within your range of optimum generosity while practising setting limits.
- Use of drugs or alcohol before or during any online or in-person session is not permitted.
- Impact and intention mismatches. Sometimes, our words and actions may impact others in ways we may not intend. When another feels impacted by our words or actions, we ask that you agree, when resourced, to engage in the repair processes taught in this training with compassion and humility. You will be supported in 1-1 supervision calls if this arises.
- Dual Roles. Some of us here might have different relationships with each other in other contexts, current or historical. In our opening circles, we invite you to share any dual roles that may influence our community cohesion (while honouring privately agreed-upon confidentiality).
- We'd like you to take responsibility for your physical and emotional health and well-being and seek support and guidance where needed. We recommend that you have a Therapist or Coach to support you when aspects of yourself need care and acknowledgement. Self-regulation and care for our emotional and physical well-being are at the heart of this training.
- We want to ask you to participate with kindness. This training involves somatic community learning, and supporting each other supports our growth and learning, just as the trees and mycelium networks support each other as part of a forest.
- During this training, we encourage you to allow any tender new aspects of yourself to be nurtured, nourished and supported. Honour your reflection and integration times until you feel ready to share with others rather than satisfy other people’s curiosity.
We'd like to ask you to read and agree to honour and respect the course container agreements above to the best of your ability.
“It’s a joy to be hidden but a disaster never to be found”
-donald winnicott
BODY POEM
ILLUMINATING UNTHOUGHT KNOWNS
Body Poem is a practice that facilitates illuminating unthought knowns, bringing alive exiled aspects of the self that become somatised when not acknowledged through symbolic representation.
ie Sarra
Body Poem can transmute the emptiness of alexithymia and indigestion pain into vibrant embodied symbols and bring life to dormant aspects of the self, which, when left unacknowledged, often manifest as physical discomfort. Alongside treatment model interventions, when illness sets in, and the build-up of pain gets too much to bear, Body Poem can be a catalyst to transform the raw visceral data, recognised as numbness, pain or blame, into embodied symbols, harmoniously breathing life into what was once indigestible and projected.
The Dream Scribe is a conduit for the Dreamer's experience, transmuting communications that may have lost their sense of belonging into poems that bring solace and reinstate them into the chorus of life.
A stance of radical acceptance offers potential for receptivity into the emergence of a living like attuned caregivers transform and bridge an infant’s somatically felt raw experiences into a shared reality. In a shared niche of attention, with symbols and metaphors, we learn to recognise that we are not alone in the soup of undifferentiated realities. This recognition enables us to play and co-create relationship agreements to meet our needs, fostering a sense of community and shared experience.
In many cultures, artistic self-expression transforms the pain of being human into a shared experience of beauty. Even the most seemingly meaningless symbols can spontaneously become embodied, shedding light on aspects of the self that have long yearned for recognition. This transformative power of artistic self-expression is at the heart of Body Poem.
Poems can harmoniously hold the dischord of impossible opposites, like the resilient tension between two ends of a harp string.
In this tension, we might live or die at the precipice of presence in a humbling surrender of holy cows and energy-consuming defences maintaining this separation.
The metaphor and melody of the poem hold us safe, like the banks of a river, containing and allowing the flow of unresolved resentments that might have been dammed before. This can make what might ordinarily be unbearable, bearable, even beautiful and harmonious, like a love song transforms the lament of loss into a song we can weep with together.
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NPSA CONGRESS 2024 – TRIESTE, ITALY
THE 23RD ANNUAL CONGRESS OF THE INTERNATIONAL NEURO PSYCHOANALYSIS SOCIETY
TRIESTE, ITALY | JUL 18, 2024 - JUL 20, 2024
In the practice of Body Poem, there are two roles: the Dreamer, who focuses on their observations or a specific area, and the Dream Scribe, who transcribes these explorations. The Dream Scribe's role is (to be a quick writer!) and trust their creativity to read the exact words back in spontaneously emerging poetry. This process is a dance of trusting spontaneity, where one person's world is received into the chords of the heart and voice of another.
The structure of a Body Poem has rules of engagement that facilitate harvesting projections into poetry. As the literalised becomes poetry, this pattern interrupts out-of-date predictive clarity that might limit self-acceptance and receptivity.
Updates to versions of self are assimilated in this new form in ways that bypass the guards, simultaneously allowing privacy for somatic openings and integration within a person's sovereignty.
When a person's exact words are read back, their unique metaphors come alive with enhanced viscerally felt granularity. This offers somatic recognition of aspects of the self that may have been rationalised out of awareness or the acceptance range
inviting the potential for playful interaction.
WHEN THE BODY SPEAKS:
EXPLORING CONVERSION DISORDER AND BEYOND
‘The complex issue of consciousness challenges us to understand how physical processes translate into personal experiences. In conversion disorder (formerly known as 'hysteria' and now referred to as functional neurological disorder or 'FND'), we ask the opposite question: how do personal experiences manifest as physical conditions? This significant conference aims to bring together psychoanalysts, psychotherapists, psychiatrists, neurologists, and other experts involved in the study and treatment of this disorder to discuss the impact of emotional well-being on its development and healing. By presenting clinical cases, research data, and innovative approaches, we strive to gain a holistic understanding of this intricate mind-body relationship.’
Body Poem is an innovative way of bypassing rationalised defences and illuminating unconscious drivers. Body Poem harvests these unthought-knowns through a process of differentiation that promotes integration, which is a crucial aspect of my research. I invite you to anonymously share your insights on Body Poems for my project. Your input could be very helpful, and if you agree to participate anonymously, I will share with you the context of your contributions, and you will have editorial control over what might be published. This research has the potential to significantly contribute to the literature in the realms of psychoanalysis and neuroscience. I want you to know that your privacy is highly respected, and your information will only be used with your enthusiastic consent for this research endeavour.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate”
-C.G. jung
Katie Sarra
Body Poem
11a Princess Street, London, SE1 6HH